100 Most Important Lessons I’ve Learned About My Life


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As I age, it amazes me to see how much I’ve changed from year to year. In the midst of all the hustle and bustle to get somewhere, do something, and be someone, it’s humbling to realize how much I have learned up to this point, and how little I actually know.


I’m reminded constantly how imperfect I am and how much work I need to do on myself to be the kind of person I want to be. Each day, I struggle with uncertainties, insecurity, fear, and doubt, just like everyone else.


Next year at this time, I’m sure I will be just as introspective about my life. But for now, here is my reflection of how this year went. This is what I feel and I hope you can relate in some way.


Here are the 100 Most Important Lessons I’ve Learned About My Life so far:

  1. Your mental and physical health are the most important things in your life. Everything else is a product of these two things.
  2. Cliches just contribute to noise and get in the way of what you really mean. Use simple language to be profound.
  3. Don’t let complexity overwhelm you. There is beauty in simplicity.
  4. Empathy is a gift you gain once you’ve heard someone else’s story and you truly understand what it’s like to be in their shoes.
  5. Beyond scientific laws, rules are only as firm as we want them to be.
  6. Success is arbitrary. It can be planned, and you can strive for it. It can also be engineered.
  7. Your mind is either the most powerful tool or the most dangerous weapon you have. The most critical skill you have is perception.
  8. Happiness isn’t something that you should strive for. Strive for fulfillment. Let happiness just happen.
  9. Everyone is a hypocrite whether they want to be or not. Most of it doesn’t matter.
  10. People are just human. If you’re kind, you’ll get the best out of even the worst.
  11. Inspiration is everywhere. Sometimes all it takes is an act of kindness to restore faith in humanity.
  12. Perfection only exists in the human mind. It’s not real. It never has been and never will be. We can always improve.
  13. Learning something from a book is one of the most powerful tools you have.
  14. Some paranoia is normal. Much of what we perceive as real often times is a figment of our collective imagination.
  15. Outside of the laws of physics, chemistry, and biology, science is uncertain.
  16. The scientific method is still the most accurate tool we have.
  17. Philosophy does not help us understand the meaning of life. It helps us think with clarity.
  18. Art is a creative expression that allows you to engage with things beyond yourself.
  19. Big business and world commerce has more in common with religion than capitalism.
  20. It’s too easy to criticize. Ask yourself if it’s constructive or destructive.
  21. Saying no to something clarifies what you will say yes to.
  22. The world is full of noise and keeps getting noisier. Don’t contribute to the noise. Contribute to helping others.
  23. No one gets through life without struggle and pain. Learn to struggle with dignity and overcome your challenges.
  24. Respect people’s time. We all have a limited amount.
  25. You are in control of your hopes and dreams. If you are not, someone else will control them for you.
  26. Planning is good, but does no good without action.
  27. Start something when you are truly ready and it feels right. Otherwise, your chances of failure will increase.
  28. You don’t have to care so much about trivial things. It only distracts you to what is truly meaningful to care about.
  29. Your attention is an invaluable commodity. Decide what things deserve the most attention.
  30. Success is rarely an overnight occurrence. Good fortune only comes from being persistent in what you believe.
  31. Regret always stems from not having asked yourself the right questions.
  32. Beyond the basic human needs for food, clothing, shelter, and social connection, life’s rules are negotiable.
  33. Diversity allows us to step out of our own heads and collaborate with others.
  34. Knowledge is subjective. We always have more work to do.
  35. We are nothing more than biological algorithms shaped by our input, feedback, and memory. We must constantly be aware of our environment.
  36. Growth is what keeps us going, and it comes from hard work on things that make us uncomfortable.
  37. Start with logic. Let it grow with imagination and creativity.
  38. Nostalgia is highly perceptive and individualistic. No time frame is ever better than any other.
  39. Pain is not always about suffering, but can be a powerful agent of learning.
  40. Reality is a word that was invented with language. No one really knows what it means entirely.
  41. The greatest risk you can take is not taking any risks at all.
  42. The goal of selecting a partner is not to complete you. No one is ever complete. It’s to strengthen and compliment you.
  43. “Love” is a romantic notion that has been penned by poets and sung by artists for centuries. There are an infinite number of qualities that define what “love” really means.
  44. Life purpose is never conclusive. It is a continuous act of actively creating purpose.
  45. It is always your decision who you let into your life and who you leave out. It is always a matter of personal boundaries.
  46. Hiding your vulnerabilities all the time is a sign of insecurity. Admitting your vulnerabilities to someone you trust is healthy.
  47. Gratitude is not something that should be practiced occasionally. It should be an active part of your life every day.
  48. The purpose of life is not to keep doing, but in being and experiencing.
  49. Accomplishing goals keeps us productive. Always push yourself with things that matter.
  50. If you worship money, materials, possessions, fame, publicity, or attention, you’ll never have enough.
  51. Rationality has it’s limitations. The right mix of rationality, passion, and risk can make big things happen.
  52. Nothing is as important as when you are excited about it. Excitement is contagious.
  53. Comparing success, objects, money, and value is a waste of time. The scoreboard is not real.
  54. Fear of death is largely futile. We all have to go sometime. Live your life so well that you will always be ready.
  55. Life is monotonous. Find a way to experience joy in the mundane.
  56. You don’t need permission to lead, build, create, or to think differently.
  57. There are no absolutes. Don’t aim to be right. Aim to be accurate.
  58. Having no opinion is not bad. It is better than blindly following someone else’s bad advice.
  59. Minding your own business makes people curious.
  60. Cynicism is largely a product of bad experience and closes us off to potential greatness.
  61. There is nothing wrong with optimism unless it is coupled with ignorance and naivety.
  62. No one can put you down unless you give them permission.
  63. Courage is the one thing that will get you through the darkest and most doubtful times.
  64. The more you chase success, the less likely it will happen.
  65. Being brutally honest is often bitter and hurtful, but it creates stronger bonds.
  66. The most important decisions you will make in life will be based on either love or fear.
  67. Always ask yourself, what do I truly care about.
  68. The more things you care about, eventually it becomes unmanageable and meaningless.
  69. Life will never be fair, and dwelling on it will only make you resentful.
  70. Even though life is not fair, some things are, and you should fight for more things to be fair.
  71. Reality is an ever-changing concept. Your perception should also be ever-changing.
  72. Some people have more innate talent than others. But talent is only one trait. Practice, passion, persistence, and perseverance should never be overlooked.
  73. Self-esteem and confidence are things you can always work on.
  74. If you always look for fault, you will certainly find it.
  75. If you always look for learning experiences, you will certainly find it.
  76. Taking pride in your accomplishments is gratifying, but recognizing those who helped you get there is 100 times more gratifying.
  77. Be kind to yourself when you fail. Your failures do not define you.
  78. Life is long or short depending on how you view it. Use your time well enough so that you maximize your chances of success.
  79. Life is too short to tolerate bullshit.
  80. When deciding on quality or quantity, it is always better to choose quality.
  81. Fear is mostly an illusion. Recognizing real fear from perceived fear is priceless.
  82. Your kids are not you. Never assume they want to follow in your footsteps. Treat them as individuals, not clones.
  83. Sentimentality is just romanticizing objects and memories from the past. Throw out what you don’t need and keep what is truly meaningful.
  84. Debt is not worth the stress. If you can avoid debt, do it.
  85. The joy we feel as children for seemingly unimportant things are eventually replaced with many unnecessary obligations placed on us by society’s rules. Decide what is really necessary and drop the rest.
  86. Life is coincidental. Bad things happen to the best of people for no obvious reason at all.
  87. People come in and out of your life all the time. Sometimes they change your life forever.
  88. Being kind is more important than being right.
  89. Express your love for the people in your life that matter most. You never know if you’ll see them again.
  90. A person who needs to change something about themselves will not change unless they are truly ready. Trying to force change is useless.
  91. Don’t wait for amazing things to happen in your life. All amazing things start with small steps. Be part of those steps.
  92. Nuture your friendships and make the bond as strong as possible. It is reciprocal.
  93. Anger outbursts are often not worth it. Anger is good in context of expression for the right reasons, but not when it’s hurtful and mean spirited.
  94. Age has no bearing on how you should think, act, or feel. Numbers were only invented to measure arbitrary things. You must be who you are no matter what number age you are.
  95. Humans were meant to move and be active. Exercise, burn calories, and eat well. Don’t lead a sedentary life. Get up and move often.
  96.  Mistakes only have meaning in a certain context of activity. Rather than focus on making or not making mistakes, focus on how you deal with and learn from mistakes.
  97. Respect, dignity, and integrity are things that we learn. It is up to you to set the standards for yourself.
  98. History has shown us that no species lasts forever. As human beings, we only have a limited time, and eventually we will become extinct. Make the most of your time by doing good things.
  99. Most people basically want the same things in life. We are not as different as some groups in power want us to believe.
  100. Don’t take life too seriously. No one actually knows what the hell they’re doing. We just generally try to do a reasonably good job with what we have in the context of our current existence.


I hope this was useful. Were there any that resonate with you in particular? If so, I’d love to know which ones. You can comment here or email me at leapfroggingsuccess@gmail.com anytime.


I hope you have a productive and wonderful new year in 2018. If you liked this article, please comment and share with family and friends on your favorite social media app.


As always, keep leaping forward my friends!






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