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How’s it going Leapfrogging Success fans and friends!
In my book, I talk a lot about the power of increased confidence that you receive from doing effective presentations and public speaking. In fact, I am so much of a believer now than I ever was before, simply because I am not the same person I was before.
In one of my previous blog posts, I wrote an article called Career Motivation 101: When You Feel Like You Just Can’t Stomach Your Job Another Minute where I talk about all kinds of crappy jobs I had before I finally found my career and what I was really cut out to do.
Why did I work all those crappy jobs? Simple. I didn’t believe in myself. But sometimes it takes a painful amount of time and/or effort to work it all out and answer the really tough questions in your life.
What I am really meant to do?
It could be several things you were meant to do, or it could be just a couple of things you do really well. Or it could be just one thing you do extremely well, and you want to devote 100% of your time and attention on it.
Whatever the case may be, you should never have to settle for a job that’s not right for you, or a job that is beneath your intelligence and ambition level. You shouldn’t just work a job because it’s “safe” or it “pays the bills.”
That’s what this article is about. Finding your real purpose.
I am going to tell you about a real life situation that I was in not too long ago where I confronted my boss about getting a better job title and higher pay, and guess what–it worked! I never thought it would work, but it did, and I will show you exactly how you can do the same thing.
Hold on to your butts! This is going to be a fun ride!
So, it started about a year ago when I noticed that my work has been shifting a lot from stuff I used to do, which was web design and web graphics for company websites to projects that involved more technical work, development of solutions, and writing logic for applications on different types of systems.
I was becoming increasingly dissatisfied with my job title because my work was naturally evolving and gravitating toward tasks that I was more suited for and I was gaining interest in other things. I was doing more public speaking, but I was still doing work in IT. I was just shifting into other areas, and my confidence level was getting better as I worked with more people. The positive attitude was really starting to show, and it made me more excited and engaged with projects overall.
I had periodic meetings with my boss about once a month to talk about any issues, goals, training, and growth opportunities I needed. I knew that my old position was becoming more obsolete the longer I was working at it in my department. So, I scheduled a meeting with him right around the time of my yearly performance evaluation.
I could have just stayed right where I was, but I knew it was time to have “the talk.” This meant “I needed my current job title aligned with what I currently do versus what I used to do, and the pay needed to align with that as well.”
What makes this story so important, you may ask? Because even just a year ago, I wouldn’t have had the balls to come out and say anything at all! I would have been so chicken shit about asking for anything related to a raise or promotion within my department, so I didn’t even bother trying.
The old me always said “What’s the use in trying anyway. They will never give it to me.” Wow, how wrong I was!
This is what the powerful of public speaking does for you. If you accept the challenge to become a better speaker, listener, and communicator, you start to pick up more things and be more receptive to cues from co-workers, supervisors, managers, and clients. You start to open your eyes and ears more.
You begin to learn what it’s like to step out of your shell and actually ask for things you need. Your whole mindset changes. And the feeling when that happens is truly amazing! I just needed to grow a pair and step it up a notch. I had to put my big boy pants on and stop playing games. I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and know that I could do it.
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The problem with me is–my brain always lies to me.
I get excited about doing things some days and I think I can make some real progress, and then the very next day (or even in the same day), my brain will contradict the positive thinking and then trash talk me into staying where I am and just throw me down in the dirt.
Well, you know what? F.U., negative mindset! You’re a lying bastard, and I don’t have to do things your way anymore. I’m running the show now! Man, that feels good!!
So guess what. We are now in the negotiation stages, and I’m happy to say that we’ll be striking an agreement very soon. And you know what? I deserve it. It’s about damn time! I am not divulging any specific numbers or specific job title change, but I can tell you it’s a significant increase.
The lesson learned here? Be confident and show it! Ask for what you want if you know you deserve it.
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Just to give you another idea of how powerful speaking gives you confidence, I visited a neighboring Toastmasters club today and they put me into their speaking schedule. I was scheduled to stand up and give an impromptu speech for 5 minutes. Now, for most inexperienced speakers, that can seem like an eternity of torture on your soul!
Here is the evaluation and feedback I received afterward from the meeting leader: “It was nice to have you join our meeting. Very helpful to get your insights based on your experience with your Toastmasters club. I was very impressed by your demeanor and professionalism when speaking with our club. Thank you! I am very interested in your book, so thank you for sending the details!”
That’s the power of public speaking right there. I’m living proof!
Do you have a story you want to share about a success you had at your company, or a situation when you finally asked for something you were always scared to ask for? I’d love for you to share your story right here. You never know who it might help.
Always keep leaping forward, my friend!